If I had a dollar for every time I’ve prayed for more patience, I’d be one rich lady by now. Hopefully I’ve at least accrued a substantial lump of grace and time off in purgatory for my patience prayers.

It seems I’m not the only one desperately calling out prayers for more patience. Praying for patience is the “in” thing to do, you know. So if you’re ever in a situation where you have to offer up a prayer intention in a group, just pray for patience and you’ll get many knowing nods from everyone, especially if you are with a bunch of moms or dads.

This is because being a mother or father, dealing with a child or a whole gaggle of children day in and day out can really wear us down. Yes, yes, we love our kids but when they aren’t all sweet and cute they can act incredibly obnoxious, stubborn, and just plain annoying. They have selective-hearing and like to hear you say the same thing over and over…and over again throughout the day. Or they just plain don’t hear you, except of course when it comes to certain sounds like that of a candy bar being ever so quietly unwrapped in the bathroom or master bedroom closet. The phrases, “Come here!”, “Right now!” and “[Please] Stop!” either bear absolutely no significance to them or inspire dyslexic responses instead. I used to think Bill Cosby was joking about the whole “brain damage” thing but the older our kids get the more my husband and I understand how serious he was.

These moments are incredibly frustrating and cause all sorts of interesting face contortions and noises to come from our mouths, and sometimes ears & noses. (Again, Bill Cosby is a hilarious genius on that point as well.) If you and your kids are lucky all those inner convulsions you are trying to repress will force you down to your knees in supplication rather than send you into toddler-tantrum-like conniptions in front of your children (or husband).

Parenting is hard but you don’t have to have children or even work with children to feel impatient from time to time. Working with a bunch of adults all day in one little box with no windows can conjure up similar feelings and reactions. Even those who pray for patience 100 times a day get to a breaking point sooner or later.  (Although we’ve probably all been warned that praying for more patience will only create more opportunities to “practice” it.) One of the hardest things about patience is the waiting. Waiting for a child to listen and obey, waiting for a boss or co-worker to respond to your email(s), waiting for God to send some sort of answer, anything, in response to a situation or problem you’re dealing with, waiting for people (or God even) to do what we want them to do and on our time table.  

I often tell my kids that being patient means waiting nicely for me. Wikipedia defines patience as,

The state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can take before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast.

Similarly the Catholic definition of patience defines it as,

A form of the moral virtue of fortitude. It enables one to endure present evils without sadness or resentment in conformity with the will of God. Patience is mainly concerned with bearing the evils caused by another. The three grades of patience are: to bear difficulties without interior complaint, to use hardships to make progress in virtue, and even to desire the cross and afflictions out of love for God and accept them with spiritual joy. (Etym. Latin patientia, patience, endurance; from patiens, suffering.)

Reflecting more on that definition makes me blush and hang my head down in shame. While I’m staring down at the ground, I realize that patience is essentially about HUMILITY.

When things aren’t going our way or when people are not acting in the way we would like them to, it takes a lot of humility to pause, and realize that we are not the center of universe.  We have to remember the other person and think not only about ourselves. When our kids, coworkers, and fellow human beings that we share our lives with won’t listen to us and do what we say or what we want them to do, we have to take a step out of ourselves and try and see things from their perspective. This doesn’t always mean we have to change what we are asking or expecting of someone if it is something good and important (like not crossing 4 lanes of oncoming traffic alone). Being humble will allow us to be patient and bear these frustrating times peacefully while we either wait for an answer or response, or, the hardest thing, change ourselves or “accept what we cannot change.”

In those moments of extreme frustration and impatience we can not only ask God for “more patience, please!” but maybe a slice of humble pie to go along with it also.

 


Next up in my random “Second Trimester Food” Series are these Barley Granola Bars I made for healthy snacking.

Here is the recipe:

  • 2 cups barley flakes
  • 1 cup barley flour
  • 3/4 cup honey
  • 3/4 – 1 cup cranberries, blueberries and other misc. dried fruit you want to put in.
  • 1/4 cup wheat germ
  • 1 - 2 TB flax seed mill (you can add more or less of this if you want)
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1 teaspoon cinnamon
  • 1/2 cup coconut oil
  • 1 egg
  • 2 teaspoons vanilla (optional)
  • optional: a handful of nuts,  chocolate chips,  white chocolate chips, reese’s pieces chips, go crazy!

I modified this recipe from the regular Chewy Yummy Granola Bar recipe I’ve used in the past. I recently had a special blood test done to see what food sensitivities I have and oats, among other things, is apparently something I have an extreme sensitivity too. This is different than an allergy so don’t worry I will not go into anaphylactic shock if you make me something with oats :) . I just have to try and avoid eating anything with oats as much as I possibly can. (This can be very hard to do!). So I’ve been slowly trying to replace recipes that call for oats with other grains like barley, rye and quinoa. The taste was a bit different as well as the overall consistency but that might be because I only put honey in and a different type of coconut oil than in the past. It was nice to have some home-made snacks that I could eat readily available for about a week or so. (I had to hide them from everyone else to make them last that long!)

In the past eating anything with oats definitely did a number on my…er…digestive tract. My poor husband’s nose can attest to this fact. So I was hoping that exchanging the oats for barley would solve this (ahem) issue but it only seemed to mildly help. Sorry this might be “TMI” (or is it t.m.i?) but I’m curious if anyone else has this same experience after eating granola bars or granola?

Anyway, hope you enjoy these Barley Granola Bars! If you try this recipe let me know how it goes and if you have any suggestions for helping everything stick better and not crumble.


This weekend I watched October Baby with some great friends. I did not know much about it before going, only that it was a pro-life/Christian movie with abortion as part of the subject. I tend to be a bit of a movie-snob, thanks to my husband and far-snobbier movie friends, and it’s hard for me not to critically pick apart every detail of a movie as I watch it. However, after sitting through movies like Fireproof (not exactly 5-stars for cinematic quality or acting), I decided this time not to worry about paying attention to how good (or bad) the acting was or how well the picture quality was and I would just watch it and enjoy the message. In the end, I was impressed not only with the message but also with the overall quality of the movie-making as well. The cheese level was manageable (and I don’t handle a lot of cheese very well) and there was a fair balance of laughter and crying (er I mean emotional parts…I don’t cry during movies).

This movie wasn’t too overly “religious” either (like some of the other ones). It didn’t feel the point of the movie was to shove fundamental Christian ideas into my face. The general Christian (and even Catholic) undertones throughout the film were more like a gentle guiding force throughout the plot (and for the characters). After reflecting and discussing the movie afterwards, I would say we all enjoyed it and would recommend others to either go and see it while it is in the theatre or at least rent it when it comes out on DVD. The movie is also very clean and “family-friendly” for kids probably age maybe 12 and above since abortion is a bit of a “mature” topic. (But you know your kids best.)

***The next part of my review might contain some spoilers so if you are like me and prefer knowing as little as possible about a movie before watching it, you might not want to read this until after you get to watch it yourself.

October Baby was a movie about love, life, death, choices, consequences, friendship, family and most importantly—forgiveness.

This really isn’t a theme we generally focus on very often, especially when it comes to the issue of abortion. The pro-life vs. pro-choice scene is usually more about accusations, judgments, and righteousness…division. But what goes on behind the scenes, behind the provocative headlines and 5-second video clips?

Pain. Lots of pain. Which turns into anger, confusion, hatred…deep and chronic sorrow. But there is also love, kindness, compassion (real compassion), humility…all of which lead from pain, through the sorrow and anger…to forgiveness…to peace.

Through October Baby’s Hannah, we see all this. We see the emptiness and the pain. We see the anger and rebellion. We see the deep yearning for love…the desire to be loved and to love…the fear of being unwanted, unloved and alone. Hannah’ journey shows the progression through all these emotions and in the end she finds the peace and satisfaction she was desperately searching for– not through anger or accusations or self-righteousness– but through humility, love and forgiveness.

While many “pro-lifers” who went and will go to watch this movie and may come out thinking about how great it would be if their “pro-choice” adversaries saw this movie too so that they could realize the horror of abortion and instantly change, there really are more lessons for those of us in the first camp.

We’ve tried so hard to change those who support abortion by waving derogatory signs or degrading pictures of aborted-babies in their faces or through slanderous and judgmental whispering and hen-clucking, or even through ego-and-career-boosting politics and points-winning legislation. For “pro-lifers”, the horror of abortion is so real and so threatening and so awful that sometimes it seems we’ve let the crime we are fighting against cast a shadow on the victims. We’ve let the ones we should be fighting for become our enemies.

Shaking our heads and wondering why on earth it could be considered “ok” to deliberately kill another innocent human being is a fine place to start and sharing pertinent information respectfully is also important but we have to move on to the next step. If we really want to see abortion “go away”, we have to be willing to look past the labels of “pro-choice” and “pro-life”, “pro-abortion” and “anti-abortion”, “pro-woman” and “anti-woman”. Then, with great humility, we have to look at what’s left and listen, see, and feel – not to justify or pander or belittle – simply to understand what’s really going on behind this “choice” (com-passion). Ranting and raving and fancy-schmancy polarizing politics will not “fix” this problem. Making abortion illegal is a great goal; however even if/when this happens and until it does much healing will be needed and this can only come through forgiveness, from both sides.

October Baby is a good movie. But when you watch it, let it change you.


We’re racing smoothly along the Racetrack Alphabet! It’s amazing what a huge difference such a small addition in our day has done for my 5 year-old son (and me!). We’ve been keeping it very simple. We practice writing the letter, and making the sound it makes and then we look around the house for Bs or whatever letter we’re on (we are actually on D now but I have to catch up here with B & C first). It’s fun watching him get all excited to find the letter at home and then everywhere else we go. We read the letter page from the books I mentioned and draw pictures of what we saw and then stick them on our racetrack. We make a visit to the library and randomly pick out books with the letter we’re on in the title or subject and read those throughout the week. I could have baked some special bread or played blocks with him during B week but I only thought of that after the fact (of course). Eventually I might add in some special activities but for now what we are doing is working just fine.

For B week, he drew pictures of a Bible, Baseball, a Boat and a Barn.

He’s growing up so fast and I am really amazed at how smart he really is. I’m going to really miss him when he starts Kindergarten next year but I am happy to see that he is definitely ready for it (academically anyway).


20. March 2012 · 3 comments · Categories: Food

It’s been a while since I’ve shared any new recipes. I used to love eating and making food. But somewhere in between being super stressed/busy last year, trying to stick to a my uniquely-specialized diet and now being pregnant, I’ve lost my appetite. As I told my husband and midwife, if there was a libido for my appetite, it would be almost non-existent these days. In the first trimester I just ate whatever I could that didn’t make me feel nauseated which left very little choices unless it was something bad for me like donuts or anything else laden with sugar. Why can’t someone discover the “amazing unknown benefits of sugar” during pregnancy? The nausea has mostly subsided in the second trimester but it still lingers enough to take the fun out of cooking and eating. However, I am also getting more hungry but I tend to not eat as much as maybe I could because my kids seem to have the opposite problem of me and always want to eat whenever I do no matter what it is or if they just ate 5 minutes ago. Also, nothing I make really sounds all that good, just Panera and Freddy’s Patty Melts, (just typing that makes me salivate and I’d probably hop in the car right now and get one if my son wasn’t taking a nap…maybe he wouldn’t notice…) and pretty much anything other people have already made and are willing to let me mooch from. It’s funny how that works.

Anyway, so slowly I’ve been trying to force myself to make eating and cooking more exciting again, if not for me and the baby then at least for the sake of my poor husband and children who’ve had to put up with all the bland and blah lately. I’m going to try and revert to my ol’ “Tasty Tuesday” posts as a way of using others excitement and appreciation for good food to give me more motivation. We could call this a “Second Trimester Food” series perhaps. ;) It will be very random.

Today, I’ll share this simple luncheon item–

I’ll call it a pepperoni turkey salad wrap. I slathered on some hummus (which I do like as long as it has no olive oil…long story) onto a whole wheat tortilla (made locally). Then I layered on some turkey and ham (yes, yes antibiotic & hormone free and no added hormones but still sandwich meat that I’m going to eat anyway so shhh). Add some swiss cheese and fresh green lettuce and some spinach and it’s a wrap. This was yummy but I think the fact that I actually made something for myself and ate it all brought me more joy than the eating part.

I’ve uploaded more food pictures so stay tuned for more. Hopefully I’ll rediscover my love for food again soon!


Monica asked what the 2 stars are she’s been seeing up in the western sky so close together the past few nights. These 2 “stars” are actualy planets: Venus & Jupiter. They are only 3 degrees apart and very bright. Venus is 8 times brighter than Jupiter though. This is the closest they will be to each other in a very long time so enjoy it while you can tonight!


I am thankful to live in a country and in a time that allows me the right to vote. It is a great gift and honor to have a say in which men and women will represent me, my family and our country in the legislature. However, as grateful as I am for this great privilege, I do not take it lightly for it is a great responsibility. I take my voting decisions seriously, sometimes maybe a little too seriously and I analyze, reanalyze, and then analyze again until I overanalyze so much that I can’t think about it anymore.

Voting is so important but because of how hard it is to really know a candidate it makes it very difficult and I think that’s why so many people just plain don’t vote…or just vote based on whoever their friends/family vote for. Or sometimes we vote based on one or two important issues while ignoring the other important issues, which is better that not voting but this ends up in a somewhat half-hearted vote– “I guess I’ll vote for this guy…” instead of a very enthusiastic, “Yes, this is definitely who I want representing us.”

I admit that I am a conflicted voter. Clearly I believe voting is important, especially now more than ever. I have no doubt that another 4 years of the current president (and those like him in congress and elsewhere) will drag our country down even further and complete the transformation of “fundamentally changing” our country into something so completely different than her original form. But, I am not completely satisfied with the alternative selections.

This may or may not surprise some of you but I have grown to appreciate the political philosophy represented by Ron Paul. If I had to choose the candidate that has been the most consistent and the most committed to a limited government as is instructed in the constitution, he would be the most obvious choice. Redefining a limited central government and reinstituting state sovereignty would automatically bring a resolution to many of our other social and economic issues we are so overwhelmed by. Paul seems to understand what is needed to fix our current problems and get us healed. Everyone else only seems to try and cover up the symptoms while ignoring the root issues. The problem though is that realistically, he isn’t a viable candidate at this time. I know this way of thinking angers many of his supporters but if we’re going to be real, that’s the truth and even he knows it. We need Paul, but first we have to put a stop to the sledgehammer of “Change” slashing away at our America. Once the cause is removed, the healing can begin.

For the presidential campaign, that leaves Mitt Romney and Rick Santorum. Romney was a governor and a business man. Santorum was a congressman and is a husband and father. Both say they same thing. Santorum is the only one with a congressional voting record and Romney is the only one with real business experience. Romney was pro-choice but had a change of heart even though social issues are hardly even mentioned on his website while Santorum has not only always been “pro-life” but has taken on a strong leadership role in legislation that limits abortion and defends the rights of the unborn and their families. Romney’s weakness is his Massachusetts “Romeny-Care” which is similar to the “Obama Care” he has vowed to repeal. Santorum’s weakness is his “big spending” and “big government” record as a congressman. I am not a fan of several other pieces of legislation he has voted for in the fields of education and immigration for example but I greatly appreciate his courage on traditional family and pro-life/anti-abortion views. But his record of big spending concerns me and I am not convinced he would make enough drastic changes to bring down the “size” of the federal government and increase the powers of the states. Without a congressional voting record from Romney, we can’t say for sure what he would do with the insane debt ceiling or ratio of federal government to the state and local governments. His unwillingness to make any cuts to the Medicare/Medicaid or Social Security programs (the biggest chunks of our debt) makes me uncertain he will actually bring down our debt.  But, when you compare both of the candidates, I would choose either of them in a heartbeat over a vote for Obama and right now I’m not even sure I can make it to our state’s caucus to cast my vote between Santorum or Romeny.

Hence, a rambling conflicted voter. J

The problem is we all want this perfect candidate but if we waited for that figment of our idealism to transform into a real human I’m afraid many very imperfect and rather terrible candidates would take up that fantastical space while we waited. If there ever was such a perfect candidate, we would doubtless hear much about him or her as this would not be in the best interest of the media whose sole job is to create conflict and showcase people’s worst flaws and natural hypocritical tendencies.

If you turn on the news or try to get even somewhat involved in political elections, you will most likely be quickly dismayed and confused and depressed with all the name-calling and ego-boosting and he said/she said blah blah blahs. It’s easy to become apathetic and feel we, the real people, have no influence on legislators anymore compared to all the much more influential lobbying groups and organizations. It’s really no wonder so few people really get involved or pay attention anymore to all this political stuff. It’s sad and confusing and honestly there are so many other more important things in life to pay attention to or get involved with—like living our lives and all that entails. It’s hard enough keeping up with our own dramas and making our own decisions, who can really keep up with the ridiculous games of the political world? Besides, other people with more time and energy can deal with all that.

Believe you me, I understand this. After getting involved in and directing a highly-stressful legislative project for the past two years, I honestly would like nothing more than to just lay out in my hammock and read books to my children all day while thinking only about the worries and cares that come with being a mother and wife and turn my mind off completely to all that political stuff and just live my life.

This isn’t a terrible dream but here’s the rub: The decisions that those “other people” make in the “political” world are real and they end up affecting how I and my family get to live our lives. To me, it seems apparent that our freedoms and our personal rights are being attacked more intensely, especially parental/family rights and religious/conscientious rights. (This is one reason I got involved in that legislative project.)  However, the corruption that we see in the family and in our churches cannot be blamed on the legislature and it is certainly foolish thinking to believe we can legislate good behavior or change the hearts of a whole society simply by casting a vote. However, it’s also easy to think we will always have the freedom to parent our own children and live out our religious/conscientious beliefs in this “land of the free.” But we can’t take it for granted and as soon as we do, that’s when we lose.

So, the real question then is who is the one to reach out with enough courage and strength to remove our attackers so our wounds can be covered and our country nursed back to health? Voting is an important part of this, even if we have to be conflicted voters. But it doesn’t end there. The real answer is simple: We—we, the people. We are the ones who will restore this country by restoring our hearts, our families, and our communities and this will eventually result in restoring our government representatives, policy-makers and our country.


Here’s a little ”wordless” Wednesday inspiration for you from some of the pictures from our Colorado trip last summer that my husband recently touched up.

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Mountain Sunset

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Some of you may remember my post about my sad breakup with Tropicana. Basically, PepsiCo, the owner of Tropicana, partners with a company called Senomyx to test their flavor enhancements for their products. The problem is that Senomyx uses aborted-fetal cell lines to test these flavor enhancement products, including testing for a new product PepsiCo will send out into the market soon. A resolution was submitted by shareholders to force PepsiCo to adopt more ethical standards in their research and product development.

This is what President Obama’s Security and Exchange commission ruled had to say about that resolution:

Obama agency rules PepsiCo cannibalizing aborted fetus is “ordinary business” Stockholders will not be notified or allowed to vote on the measure (Largo, FL) In a shocking decision delivered Feb 28th, President Obama’s Security and Exchange Commission ruled that PepsiCo’s use of aborted fetal remains in their research and development agreement with Senomyx to produce flavor enhancers falls under “ordinary business operations”. The letter signed by Attorney Brian Pitko of the SEC Office of Chief Counsel was sent in response to a 36-page document submitted by PepsiCo attorneys in January, 2012. In that filing, PepsiCo pleaded with the SEC to reject the Shareholder’s Resolution filed in October 2011 that the company “adopt a corporate policy that recognizes human rights and employs ethical standards which do not involve using the remains of aborted human beings in both private and collaborative research and development agreements.”

Read the rest of the statement here.

This all sounds too awful to be true but I made sure to check all the sources and sadly it is and that’s why I’m sharing this. It may not seem like a big deal when you’re looking at the big picture of atrocities against human life. However, if you look closely at the big picture you’ll see when these “little” seemingly “irrelevant” leftover parts of humanity are ignored and used for “ordinary business”, it opens the door for other more obvious cruelties against the dignity of human life.

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