So far, for my “positive kid-talk” goal I’ve shared what I love about my two sons and not too long ago about my sweet daughter. It’s been helpful focusing on what I love about them instead of only what drives me crazy. Soon our lives and family will go through more big transitions (baby and school) and I’m enjoying this time to relish my family as we are with the hope and excitement for more joy to come. Since I’ve already given time to my children (out of utero), I’ll do something way radical and risky and talk about my husband today. (Don’t worry, darling, only positive talk allowed.)
Back in May I read this post about blogging about marriage at Faith and Family and have thought about it on and off since. I agree there ought to be more talk about marriage but it is difficult to write about something so sacred and intimate and private in such a public way. I love Marriage, the beautiful living Sacrament, and I love to read and write about it…in general terms. Those who know me personally know more about what our marriage and my husband and me are like beyond the general but for the most part, I don’t share the details of our marriage beyond close friends. Even then, I try to make a conscious effort not to spend time only complaining about the things that bother me about him and feel I’ve gotten better with this over the years.
Like in any relationship, there are of course things that irk me about him but we’ve been married long enough now (almost 10 years!) that many of those things have either a) stopped bothering me, b) I’ve chosen not to let them bother me (as much), or c) I’ve gotten better at talking with him honestly about them instead of assuming he can read my mind.
Either way, I don’t think it would do me, him, us, or any of you any good for me to complain on my blog about anything I was upset or irritated about with him. He’s my husband so if I have a problem big enough to want to share, I should just talk with him about it honestly. With our children, it’s easier to whine/vent because they generally will not read our posts about them (until they are older and can laugh about it with us). Still, we should be respectful of them and keep a good balance between whining, praising, or simply saying nothing at all. It’s nice to get encouragement and sympathy from other moms since we most likely will not get that from our children (especially the ones who are too young to talk or really understand why repeating the same thing to them over and over drives us moms absolutely batty).
That said, I will now commence my positive husband-talk and lavish him with all sorts of praises
and make all you wish you married him and inspire you to look at your husband and remember what you love about him and why you married him.
The first word I think of when I think of my husband is integrity. He is a man of great integrity, always seeking to do what is right over what is easier/popular.
Other words that come to mind when I think (positively) of him.
Confident; he is sure of who he is, who I am, who God is/isn’t. When he knows something is true or right, he sticks to it without fear or hesitation. Even if I doubt, he holds me up with his confidence and reminds me (often) of what I already know.
Man of honor; He’s honest, fair, respectful. You can count on him.
Faithful; to me, his family, and (most importantly) God and his Faith.
Silly, goofy, funny, playful; he can always make me laugh, even when I don’t want to.
Awesome Daddy; I couldn’t have asked for a better father for our children and they adore him.
Caring, gentle; he stays up our kids when they are sick or hurt, camps out in the bathroom next to the toilet or by their beds, speaking words of encouragement that work magic on them (and me when I’m not feeling well also)
Good listener; he listens more than he talks (which works well since I’m kind of the opposite)
Patient; He has put up with me for all these years and all the cRaZy obsessions I’ve gone through. Even when he knows I’m being silly, he waits and/or supports me until I realize my own silliness. He knows me better than I know myself yet he waits, patiently, for me to figure it out on my own.
Intelligent, Common Sense, Smart; he understands things in a way I just can’t grasp. When he learns something, it’s like on the Matrix when they upload information into their heads and bam! it’s just there in their heads and he just gets it.
Talented; especially when it comes to photography, atronomy and the two together (astrophotography) the man has some serious skillz.
Hard worker; he takes his job seriously. He is truly grateful for his job, enjoys it, and puts his whole self into it…and that is his greatest reward.
Loving, respectful, loyal husband; he loves me. He knew we were supposed to get married before I did and once he knew, he knew. I am his wife, his love, his bride – forever.
Yeah, he’s not ‘perfect’ but he is perfect for me. I love him–my husband, my love, my groom – forever.