While I’ve spoken out with what may seem a harsh conviction against same-sex marriage and homosexual acts, I want to say that I do not hate those who suffer from homosexuality, and I do have compassion and empathy for the cross they carry.
There have been some great discussions going around concerning how to ‘love the sinner and not the sin’.
“Then, I started to wonder why we need to hate at all. Certainly, Jesus didn’t teach that. Jesus was all about love. Love God. Love our neighbors. And on one occasion he even said to his followers, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” And not one of them threw a stone at the woman who had been accused of adultery. They all were with sin. We all are with sin.”
Of course after the dust settled Jesus followed up with the woman and said, “Go and sin no more.”
I highly recommend reading through Thomas Peters authentically Catholic response, Love the Sinner. Really
“Graham is correct that one cannot separate what people do from who they are, on one level. If I murder someone, that makes me a murderer. But my action to murder, we know as Christians, is not the last word in my life. There is forgiveness, even of murder, and certainly of homosexual acts. The tens of thousands of chaste people with homosexual inclinations is proof of this. We are all sinners who have sinned, but some of us have sought forgiveness. And those who have been forgiven of sins always realize that they have, in fact, sinned. Graham does not seek forgiveness for her sin, again, because she does not believe (or does not admit) it is sinful.”
But so how do you talk to people who support same-sex marriage? If one of my sons one day told me they were gay or a family member did, I’d still love them and try and find common ground while still agreeing to disagree and encouraging them to seek support while living a chaste life in spite of their disorder in the same way I’d encourage a friend with an eating disorder to look for support while trying to stay healthy despite her disorder.
My good friend also shared Inside Catholic’s guide of Five Ways to Talk to the Left about Same-Sex Marriage
In there, they rightfully remind us that:
“the particular inclination of the homosexual person is not a sin.” Only actions are sinful. You can also point out that you believe fornication and adultery are sinful, showing that it isn’t about the orientation, but the action.
Lastly, “we are told that if we truly loved gay people, we would support the gay marriage movement. But true love always draws the beloved away from harmful behaviors, “always chooses the good of the person loved,” as [Christopher] West puts it. Only a false compassion permits another person to drink the poison he wishes.
P.S. many have already discovered this but I want to recommend this article over at Catholic Exchange again: Gay Marriage and the End of Christian Civilization The article is great but the back and forth discussion between Mary Kochan and a self-proclaimed homosexual anglican priest is a must read! She definitely isn’t afraid to say things how they are.
For example, when accused of being judgemental and like the pharisess she says, “Give it up. We aren’t going to be cowed by this ‘though shalt not judge’ whining crap any longer. We will call it out for the craven attempt at manipulation, intimidation, and Scripture twisting that it is. The Pharisees claimed to perfectly keep God’s law and therefore to be better than the masses of people whose difficult lives made adhering to the jot and tittle of the ceremonial Jewish law very hard. We are not claiming to be better than you are. [my emphasis] We are not even judging the state of your soul. We are saying with great clarity that you are engaged in an objective moral evil and violation of God’s law.”